Remember Your Power!

We must remember our power. We are stronger than our circumstances. We can influence and transcend our environment. Our natural ability to reason plus the intuition we were born with are invaluable tools that can help to bring us out of undesired circumstances.

One major issue that holds a lot of Seekers back is the belief that they are not worthy to receive something better. Before anything of greater value can come into our lives we must begin to believe we are worthy of people, circumstances and a life that has greater value. If we are keeping ourselves stuck in an abusive or toxic relationship, what will begin to change that is our thoughts and belief that we are worthy of happiness within our relationships.

We if we lack the financial abundance we desire, the belief that we are more valuable is core to changing our situation. Once we have the thoughts and beliefs of greater self-esteem, then we can begin to take action.

Action from this place may look like breaking up with a person we are in a toxic relationship with. It may look like continuing our education to learn greater skills that will set us free financially. Or it might look like simply charging more for our products or services because we have come to realize how valuable they truly are.

Action might also look like moving, either to a new part of town, the state or to a whole new city or country.

It is in our thoughts of unworthiness that we create a life that is out of harmony with what we truly desire. Slowly, day by day, as we change our thoughts from thoughts of unworthiness to worthiness, from doubting our dreams and intuition to believing, we will begin to take subtle different actions. These actions will eventually add
up one at a time until we don't even recognize our life anymore.

We all want something to change in our lives. We want to grow. We want to evolve. We want love. We desire abundance.

We must begin by acknowledging our worth. We are not worthy because of a degree, an honor or a grade. We are all equally worthy to live this kind of elevated lifestyle because we are all Loved children of The Uni-verse. We must each realize that we are already worthy and then begin to take action from this place of already being worthy, while at the same time honor the worthiness of everyone else we meet.

We are powerful beings. Let us step into that power today and declare our worthiness as already existing.

Are you feeling worthy today?

Love,

Ivo

Let's Get Real

The key to changing your life starts with being honest with yourself. The stories we tell ourselves about why something can't happen, or how long it's going to take to get over someone or why we can't quit an addiction we know is unhealthy for us, is what keeps us trapped in a cycle of negative behavior.

So today, let's practice radical honesty with ourselves.

I'll start. I want to gain weight about 5 klgs. I have been told by a lot of my friends that I don't need to gain weight and that I'm fine. And I've believed that story for a long time. But you know what, it's not okay with me anymore. I want to gain 5 klgs. The reason why I haven't gain these 5 klgs already is because I have chosen not to have a super awesome diet as my priority. I don't go to the gym, and my diet needs improving. So instead of telling myself it's okay, I am drawing a line in the sand with myself and putting myself on notice that I am the cause of this effect that I do not want in my life and I am choosing to remain stuck in an unwanted effect, not because of some outside circumstance, situation or person, but because of me alone.

There, I said it. I'm lazy, I know I must go to the gym, I know that I need a better diet but I'm just to lazy about it.

Being radically honest is awesome. It takes our power back. It gives us the truth about ourselves. And it might hurt a little bit, but as the saying goes, the truth will set you free, but first it will piss you off. So what truth about yourself do you not want to admit?

Is there weight you want to lose but you're not being honest with yourself?

Is there love you want to express and let in but you're afraid being hurt again?

Is there an addiction you want to give up, but you're too afraid to face yourself without the addiction?

Is there a change you are dying to make but you are just terrified of the unknown?

If your answer is YES - then today - let us practice radical honesty. How are you holding yourself in this pattern? What payoff do you get by staying the same? Who have you blamed so far for why you are stuck in this situation? Are you ready to take full responsibility for the circumstances of your life?

Write out what you want to change. Then write out honestly why you haven't. Write out the pay off. Write out whom you've been blaming and then tell the truth - why haven't you changed?

Now that you are facing this truth, how does it feel? A little uncomfortable? Good.
Truth is Love and Love is Truth.

So - now that you know the Truth about this part of your life, what are you going to do about it?

Me? I'm going to have three meals a day... starting... tomorrow. ;o)

Love,

Ivo

Let Go Of Needing To Be Right

One of the greatest obstacles to our growth is pride. The need to be right is one of the largest blocks to Love, to Growth and to intimacy.

This need is based in fear and is of the ego. One of my favorite philosophers, Krishnamurti, says the key to happiness is "not minding what happens."

This isn't to say that we shouldn't care or that we should be lazy. On the contrary, this is a call to care, to give it our all, but to surrender the outcome.

Our pride wants us to be right. Our pride wants us to be first. Our pride cannot admit when we're wrong. Our pride is terrified of opening up and loving. Our pride loves to be in control.

If we instead look at life, not from a place of lack that requires us to control our limited resources, but as a journey into dissolving our fears, we can let go.
And as Krishnamurti says, not mind what happens.

We can detach from the outcome. We cannot take insults personally. We cannot let how much money we do or do not have define us. We cannot let success define us.
We can let go of the need of the approval of other people. When we don't mind what happens, we can step into simply being ourselves and sharing.

We can detach from the fearful need to be right and instead step into an intention and the action of sharing. We begin to value growth over protection of our beliefs.
We are now willing to drop a belief when we come across a deeper truth.

We see the value in not needing to defend our position, but understand our fellow Seekers and share from a place of feeling, rather than report from a place of judgment.

We are being called to grow. We are asking for insight, so we must be willing to admit when we are wrong and flow with the lessons of The Uni-verse. Let us see ourselves as being sharpened so that we may cut through the B/S of life.

Soooooooooooo....

Is there any place in your life where you just really don't want to admit you are wrong? Are you willing to let it go for the sake of greater things that are waiting to enter your life?

What can you let go of today? What can you admit to? What do you want to no longer let control you?

Step into love and kindness by giving up the need to be right.

You might hate me now for saying this, but later you'll thank me. It feels so good to let it go.

Love,

Ivo

How much longer?

I want to be real with you. I have an honest and raw question...

How much longer do you want to suffer?

That is the question that kept coming up this week on my head. So many people have all the "knowledge" of this self-help business, but so few are walking in the knowledge.
There is a lot of knowledge and not that much experience.

So, I kept asking myself this question this week. Now I'm asking YOU -

How much longer do you want to suffer?

This question I'm asking you is on the side of your dreams. Now, I know if you're reading this blog you are probably not starving and have your basic needs met, so I'm not talking about survival suffering.

I'm talking about your heart and your soul. They are yearning for change. They are yearning for a new beginning. They are yearning to express themselves in your life in the form of creativity, a loving relationship, abundance, awesome friends and a thriving community. If you are lacking these things, part of you is suffering.

Not from a place of survival, not from a place of thriving... We are Seekers on The Path and we want the best from life. We want the Tiffany's and Chanel of inner peace. We have bodies that have enough energy to live our dreams. We want to take bold action and thrust ourselves outside of the our comfort zones so that we can live life fully expressed.

This cannot happen if we don't take thriving seriously. And not just our own thriving, but the thriving of everyone in our lives. As we get free we help those around us get free, too. And if our standards are so low that we only desire surviving and not thriving, we are suffering.

If we are not getting the MOST out of life, if we are not feeling FULLY alive and being FULLY expressed, then we are suffering. We are suffering from a life unlived. Not because out basic needs are met, no, but because we are not living from the inside out.

We don't need millions of dollars to thrive. But we do need to face our fears daily.
We don't need fancy cars or an expensive wardrobe to thrive, but we do need to wear our own authentic skin.

So I ask you today, dear Seeker, how much longer are you willing to suffer in an unexpressed life? If you choose to suffer longer, then don't blame other people for your unhappiness anymore. Your state of being is being decided upon in every moment by you.
Take ownership of not living a fully expressed life and take back the blame.

If you are ready to change now, then set higher standards, step into the uncomfortable and don't mind what other people say. You are here to thrive, to live fully expressed, not to wonder "what if?"

How much longer are you willing to suffer?

Love,
Ivo

Set out of Blame

Let us step out of blame today. When we decide to blame or in any way emotionally
stab someone, we are simply projecting our own pain onto him or her. In doing so,
we give him or her all the power for how we feel, which creates even more pain because
we know deep down another person can never make us feel happy or sad.

So today, in an effort to not only take our power back but also become more loving,
let us cease to blame and instead tell on ourselves. Let us express how we feel 
instead of blaming someone else for how we feel. Let us take ownership over our 
emotions, for we are realizing that it is merely our interpretations of the events
of our lives that create the emotions we feel.

When we dishonor and do not express our emotions, we let them well up within us.
We must give them voice; we must let them out to air. Not because we need to dump
them all over something, no, but because we value creating intimacy in our relationships
and the only way we can do that is by being willing to become vulnerable enough 
to tell on ourselves.

If you are in a situation where another person doesn't want to hear or honor how
you are feeling, then I would suggest asking yourself if you feel it is in your
best interest to be with someone who is not willing to accept and acknowledge the
deepest part of you.

So this is our calling for today: to take ownership of our emotions. To express 
our emotions fully and to choose to be with people who are willing to respect and
honor the deepest part of ourselves. This is a formula and plan for a large amount
of happiness. It is simple, but not easy. It takes courage and a willingness to 
accept parts of ourselves that we may not want to look at. But if we bring our Light
to the darkness of our lives, we will transform those dark parts into Light. This
is the courageous call we are asked to answer on our path to greater emotional freedom.

Love,
Ivo