How much longer?

I want to be real with you. I have an honest and raw question...

How much longer do you want to suffer?

That is the question that kept coming up this week on my head. So many people have all the "knowledge" of this self-help business, but so few are walking in the knowledge.
There is a lot of knowledge and not that much experience.

So, I kept asking myself this question this week. Now I'm asking YOU -

How much longer do you want to suffer?

This question I'm asking you is on the side of your dreams. Now, I know if you're reading this blog you are probably not starving and have your basic needs met, so I'm not talking about survival suffering.

I'm talking about your heart and your soul. They are yearning for change. They are yearning for a new beginning. They are yearning to express themselves in your life in the form of creativity, a loving relationship, abundance, awesome friends and a thriving community. If you are lacking these things, part of you is suffering.

Not from a place of survival, not from a place of thriving... We are Seekers on The Path and we want the best from life. We want the Tiffany's and Chanel of inner peace. We have bodies that have enough energy to live our dreams. We want to take bold action and thrust ourselves outside of the our comfort zones so that we can live life fully expressed.

This cannot happen if we don't take thriving seriously. And not just our own thriving, but the thriving of everyone in our lives. As we get free we help those around us get free, too. And if our standards are so low that we only desire surviving and not thriving, we are suffering.

If we are not getting the MOST out of life, if we are not feeling FULLY alive and being FULLY expressed, then we are suffering. We are suffering from a life unlived. Not because out basic needs are met, no, but because we are not living from the inside out.

We don't need millions of dollars to thrive. But we do need to face our fears daily.
We don't need fancy cars or an expensive wardrobe to thrive, but we do need to wear our own authentic skin.

So I ask you today, dear Seeker, how much longer are you willing to suffer in an unexpressed life? If you choose to suffer longer, then don't blame other people for your unhappiness anymore. Your state of being is being decided upon in every moment by you.
Take ownership of not living a fully expressed life and take back the blame.

If you are ready to change now, then set higher standards, step into the uncomfortable and don't mind what other people say. You are here to thrive, to live fully expressed, not to wonder "what if?"

How much longer are you willing to suffer?

Love,
Ivo

Set out of Blame

Let us step out of blame today. When we decide to blame or in any way emotionally
stab someone, we are simply projecting our own pain onto him or her. In doing so,
we give him or her all the power for how we feel, which creates even more pain because
we know deep down another person can never make us feel happy or sad.

So today, in an effort to not only take our power back but also become more loving,
let us cease to blame and instead tell on ourselves. Let us express how we feel 
instead of blaming someone else for how we feel. Let us take ownership over our 
emotions, for we are realizing that it is merely our interpretations of the events
of our lives that create the emotions we feel.

When we dishonor and do not express our emotions, we let them well up within us.
We must give them voice; we must let them out to air. Not because we need to dump
them all over something, no, but because we value creating intimacy in our relationships
and the only way we can do that is by being willing to become vulnerable enough 
to tell on ourselves.

If you are in a situation where another person doesn't want to hear or honor how
you are feeling, then I would suggest asking yourself if you feel it is in your
best interest to be with someone who is not willing to accept and acknowledge the
deepest part of you.

So this is our calling for today: to take ownership of our emotions. To express 
our emotions fully and to choose to be with people who are willing to respect and
honor the deepest part of ourselves. This is a formula and plan for a large amount
of happiness. It is simple, but not easy. It takes courage and a willingness to 
accept parts of ourselves that we may not want to look at. But if we bring our Light
to the darkness of our lives, we will transform those dark parts into Light. This
is the courageous call we are asked to answer on our path to greater emotional freedom.

Love,
Ivo

How's with you?

Will Smith said it best:

"You can tell how far in life you'll go by the 5 people you spend the most amount of time with."

I remember the first time I heard this quote it totally rearranged my whole brain. I took a look around me and - OMG - did I see that some changes had to be made!

If you want to go far in life, it's VITAL that you surround yourself with people who love you, people who are looking out for your best interests and people who want you to win. Also - and PLEASE HEAR ME - when taking advice, not everyone's advice is equal - please, PLEASE take advice from people who HAVE what YOU WANT.

You wouldn't ask a plumber how to treat your cold and likewise you shouldn't ask people who haven't accomplished - how to accomplish. There may be PLENTY of well-meaning people in your life who are giving you horrible advice.

It could be their own limiting beliefs playing out, it could be that they want you to live a safe life and that taking risks is equivalent to possible failure, who knows, but believe me when I say that you don't want to take advice from "guessers".

Guessers are those people who haven't accomplished something that you are asking for advice about. Since they don't know, all they can really do is guess.

If you want to start a business, get advice from SUCCESSFUL business people in your field. If you want LOVE advice, get advice from someone who has an amazing relationship

Who you choose to surround yourself with and take advice from is a huge factor in how successful you will become.

So, who are you hanging out with these days?

Com quem andas?

Will Smith disse uma vez:

"You can tell how far in life you'll go by the 5 people you spend the most
amount of time with."

Lembro-me da primeira vez que ouvi isso e como totalmente reorganizou o meu cérebro. Dei uma olhada ao meu redor e - nossa - eu vi que algumas mudanças tinham que ser feitas!

Se você quiser conquistar na vida, é vital você se cercar de pessoas que a amam, pessoas que estão olhando para os seus melhores interesses e pessoas que  querem que você ganhe sempre. Além disso - e, por favor, ouça-me - quando se trata de conselhos, e como conselhos nunca são iguais - por favor, aceite de pessoas que tem o que você também quer.

Você não perguntaria a um encanador como tratar uma doença crônica, também você não deve perguntar a pessoas que não conseguiram fazer o que você quer. Pode haver bastante bem-intencionados na sua vida que lhe estão dando conselhos horríveis.

Pode ser porque suas próprias crenças falando mais alto, pode ser que eles querem que você viva uma vida segura e para elas correr riscos é equivalente a um eventual insucesso, quem sabe, mas acredite quando eu digo que você não quer conselhos de "guessers".

Guessers são aquelas pessoas que não conseguiram ou não conseguem o que você está querendo pedir conselho. Uma vez que eles não sabem, tudo o que realmente podem fazer é adivinhar.

Se você quer começar um negócio, obtenha conselhos de pessoas com negócios muito bem sucedidos nesse ramo. Se você quiser conselho de amor, procure orientação de alguém que tem um relacionamento incrivelmente motivador.

Quem você opta por se rodear e aceitar conselhos será um enorme fator de o quanto bem sucedido você se tornará.

Então, com quem você vai sair hoje?

Dor

Dizem que a dor é inevitável, mas o sofrimento é opcional. Temos toda a experiência da dor em nossas vidas. A questão é, como você vai interpretar a dor?

Você é vítima da sua dor? Você a combate. Você aceita que não vai mudar ou você vê a dor como um portal de descoberta e de crescimento?

Estas questões se aplicam a dor física, mas eu estou falando sobre a dor emocional. Os músculos mais fortes foram feitos por que se separam muitas vezes, só para serem reconstruídos cada vez mais fortes.

Quanto mais você estiver disposto a se colocar lá fora, e sujeitar-se à dor da vida, mais forte você pode se tornar.

Eles lhe rejeitaram. Como é que você vai interpretar isso? Que você é inútil e desprezível, ou que a pessoa certa irá aparecer no timing certo. Você vai continuar tentando e continuando a se amar? Ou, você desiste e deixa a dor da rejeição momentânea saia vitoriosa?

Você não consegue o que realmente queria. Você acredita que a vida é uma bosta e depois você morre? Ou então, você mantém a crença de que algo melhor ainda está esperando por você?

Toda vez que você experimentar dor você tem a opção de como deseja interpretar essa dor.

Considere seriamente esta questão: a partir de agora, como você vai interpretar a dor em sua vida?