Paradoxo...

Eu acho que é seguro dizer que, se está a ler este blog - queres ser feliz ou apenas tens curiosidade pelo que escrevo. Seja com for espero não agradar ou concordar é a minha singela opinião e não passo de um errante, mas aqui vai o que acho...

O paradoxo que eu encontrei na vida é isto ... , a fim de sermos felizes, temos de crescer. E, para crescer, precisamos enfrentar os nossos medos.

Portanto, a equação é algo como isto:

Felicidade = crescimento = Enfrentar medos

Que pode ser simplificada:

Felicidade = Enfrentar medos

Este é o paradoxo, porque é terrível enfrentar nossos medos. Eu sei que é para mim. Estou com medo de todos os tipos de coisas, não sou o maxista de falar “não tenho medo de nada na vida” só ai ja sabemos que essa pessoa tem até medo da propria verdade e nunca poderá ser realmente feliz.

Eu tenho feito um monte de viajens recentemente e algo que eu comecei a ficar com medo de voar. Eu nunca tive medo de voar entrava no avião e ainda nem tinha descoladado já estava a dormir. Agora, eu sou um passageiro com medo

Eu acho que é porque agora eu tenho muito a perder na minha vida. Houve um tempo na minha vida em que eu não tinha nada a perder ou talvez nem desse valor ao que realmente tinha e consequentemente não dava quaquer valor a minha própria vida.

 

Mas, agora, eu tenho muito e dou realmente muito valor ao que eu amo na minha vida e por isso mesmo não quero perdê-lo ou sentir falta. É fez de mim um crescido o tão chamado adulto, criança não tem medo!

Mas, para eu continuar a crescer, este é um medo que eu tenho que enfrentar. Mais e mais e outra vez. E com base na equação acima, enfrentar esse medo faz com que a felicidade venha. Por quê? Porque parte de mim está enfrentando este medo que cresce de viajar e eu preciso viajar mais e mais para poder estar perto das pessoas que amo.

Enfrentar o medo de voar = Felicidade de estar com as pessoas que amo.

Outro medo que tenho é deixar entrar amor. Sim deixar amor entrar, receber amor. Eu sei que soa a ironia para a pessoa que começou a escrever sobre amor, certo? Bem, eu já disse isto antes e vou dizer novamente – olha para o que eu digo, não para o que eu faço. Pois é deixar entrar AMOR é uma coisa realmente difícil para eu fazer. É me muito fácil dar amor, pois dar é uma forma de poder e sim sou humano e como todo Humano gostamos de poder, eu o poder de dar amor.

Mas deixar receber amor, deixar em abundância, deixando em todas as coisas que eu realmente quero é assustador, porque eu poderia arriscar-me mais uma vez me machucar. Mas eu começei a perceber que arrisco muito mais por não deixar... isto é nunca posso ter essa felicidade que eu tanto gosto, se não deixar AMOR entrar.

E assim, mais uma vez, tenho que enfrentar o medo de ser ferido para que eu possa crescer no amor e abundância que tanto desejo.

Então isso significa que vou voar num avião caindo aos bocados com uma bandeira de alguma organização terrorrista ou apenas deixar entrar alguem no meu coração só porque tem um sorriso bonito e a curvinha? Claro que não! Precisamos de limites ditos saudáveis ​​e discernimento. Se eu entrei num avião em que o piloto está bêbado, eu saio. Ou se alguém não me ama, eu não posso deixar perto do meu coração. Precisamos de discernimento. Mas, para os voos seguros, para aqueles que me amam eu me sentiria mais feliz se eu deixasse o amor “entrar”, estas são as pessoas e as situações que eu preciso me envolver, mesmo que seja assustador.

Felicidade = enfrentar medos - que medos tu enfrentas hoje?

 

Believe and you will achieve!

Depois da viagem tem sempre o primeiro passo!

Andei quilômetros de deserto
Nadei por águas infinitas
Procurando lugares
Algo que eu possa chamar de meu
Estou chegando, chegando mais perto de você
Atravessei muitos continentes, entrei por muitas portas
O lugar onde quero estar
É aquele que posso chamar de nosso
Estou chegando, estou chegando mais perto de ti

Estou chegando, estou me aproximando, tu podes ouvir o que ouço?
Algo chama, de muito longe
Posso ouvir algo chamando
Estou chegando, não me afogo nado para perto de ti

Nunca estive aqui antes, estou intrigado, estou em terra
Procurando por algo mais
Tenho algo que é só meu

Chegando, aproximando, tu podes ouvir o que eu ouço?
Posso ouvir algo chamando nado para mais perto de ti
Vi muitos rostos
Estive em muitos lugares
Caminhei por desertos, nadei de costas
Conheci muitos rostos, aprendi ao longo do caminho

Estou chegando sozinho
Estou chegando, eu sinto
Estou me aproximando não estou mais me afogando

Tudo volta

Pois é... já se passaram algumas luas e por-de-sol desde a ultima visita a este mundo,
Mas como todo bom filho sempre volta a casa aqui estou eu depositando mais alguns pensamentos, momentos, desabalos, revoltas mas acima de tudo o meu amor, não um amor por algo ou alguem mas um amor por tudo PELA VIDA, para ti minha vida! Espero que gostem...

Bring The Love

To be a loving person we must learn to hold a loving space for people we are in relationships with at all times. This means when they are doing things we agree with and when they are doing things we don't like.

This is where compassion comes in. When we are approaching a situation from a place of lack and someone we are in relationship with is doing something we don't like, we blame him or her for not meeting our needs. But when we enter a relationship from a place of fullness, we see that the other person is doing the best they can with what they have.

This means that whatever they are doing has no effect on our happiness because we are already full from within and, as we bring that fullness to the situation, our resentment or anger transforms into compassion and gratitude. And from this place of fullness we can BRING the love to the relationship, instead of trying to extract it.

And when we BRING the love, we create a space in our relationships where not only do WE transform as people, but we create a space for the other person to transform and to feel safe instead of judged. And when we feel safe and accepted we feel loved, and when we feel loved we let our heart out to play much more often.

This is one of the major benefits of bringing the love instead of trying to extract it. The strong person brings the love, knowing they are already full. The strong person holds a space of love and compassion for anyone they are in relationship with when the other person is not acting how we would like and in this way transforms fear into love within the relationship.

This is what we are called to do: bring the love.

Are you bringing it today?

Love,

Ivo

Be An Antidote To Fear!

Fear is a toxic and very fast spread virus of the mind. As you get deeper and deeper on The Path, you will become more sensitive to other people and their state of being. Your job is to stay aware of your being and notice when you have taken on the thoughts and emotions of others.

Have you ever noticed that you could be having a perfectly fine day and then you spend time with someone whom you love and care for, who may be in a negative and fearful place, and after you're done hanging out with them, YOU feel negative and fearful?

That's what I call catching the fear bug. You have let the energy and thoughts of another become your own. And doesn't it almost feel unfair, because they didn't even ask? They just seemed to dump all over you.

But you see, as you become more aware, as you step into your own power, this will not change the negativity of the world or of others. In fact, you will become vastly more aware of other people's fear and negativity. But do not fret.

Your job is to become strong enough to see and experience the fear and negativity of others and, instead of resisting it and calling it "evil" or "dark", to understand it is simply a deep yearning for love. When you understand and know that another's fearful and negative state of being is nothing more than a call for love, you no longer have to assume their fear or let it affect you. You can simply understand what they are really looking for and send Love instead of fear back to them.

When we understand that the fear and negativity in others is a call for Love, we inoculate ourselves against the fear bug. We have an anti-fear-otic that, through our awareness, transforms fear into Love within us. This way, we can purge our bodies of the fear of others and actually respond from a place that not only helps to elevate and heal them, but also elevates and heals us in the process.

So inoculate yourself from fear today by understanding the negativity and fear of others is simply a call for Love and decide that you are going to be the person to answer that call today.

Much love,

Ivo

Remember Your Power!

We must remember our power. We are stronger than our circumstances. We can influence and transcend our environment. Our natural ability to reason plus the intuition we were born with are invaluable tools that can help to bring us out of undesired circumstances.

One major issue that holds a lot of Seekers back is the belief that they are not worthy to receive something better. Before anything of greater value can come into our lives we must begin to believe we are worthy of people, circumstances and a life that has greater value. If we are keeping ourselves stuck in an abusive or toxic relationship, what will begin to change that is our thoughts and belief that we are worthy of happiness within our relationships.

We if we lack the financial abundance we desire, the belief that we are more valuable is core to changing our situation. Once we have the thoughts and beliefs of greater self-esteem, then we can begin to take action.

Action from this place may look like breaking up with a person we are in a toxic relationship with. It may look like continuing our education to learn greater skills that will set us free financially. Or it might look like simply charging more for our products or services because we have come to realize how valuable they truly are.

Action might also look like moving, either to a new part of town, the state or to a whole new city or country.

It is in our thoughts of unworthiness that we create a life that is out of harmony with what we truly desire. Slowly, day by day, as we change our thoughts from thoughts of unworthiness to worthiness, from doubting our dreams and intuition to believing, we will begin to take subtle different actions. These actions will eventually add
up one at a time until we don't even recognize our life anymore.

We all want something to change in our lives. We want to grow. We want to evolve. We want love. We desire abundance.

We must begin by acknowledging our worth. We are not worthy because of a degree, an honor or a grade. We are all equally worthy to live this kind of elevated lifestyle because we are all Loved children of The Uni-verse. We must each realize that we are already worthy and then begin to take action from this place of already being worthy, while at the same time honor the worthiness of everyone else we meet.

We are powerful beings. Let us step into that power today and declare our worthiness as already existing.

Are you feeling worthy today?

Love,

Ivo

Let's Get Real

The key to changing your life starts with being honest with yourself. The stories we tell ourselves about why something can't happen, or how long it's going to take to get over someone or why we can't quit an addiction we know is unhealthy for us, is what keeps us trapped in a cycle of negative behavior.

So today, let's practice radical honesty with ourselves.

I'll start. I want to gain weight about 5 klgs. I have been told by a lot of my friends that I don't need to gain weight and that I'm fine. And I've believed that story for a long time. But you know what, it's not okay with me anymore. I want to gain 5 klgs. The reason why I haven't gain these 5 klgs already is because I have chosen not to have a super awesome diet as my priority. I don't go to the gym, and my diet needs improving. So instead of telling myself it's okay, I am drawing a line in the sand with myself and putting myself on notice that I am the cause of this effect that I do not want in my life and I am choosing to remain stuck in an unwanted effect, not because of some outside circumstance, situation or person, but because of me alone.

There, I said it. I'm lazy, I know I must go to the gym, I know that I need a better diet but I'm just to lazy about it.

Being radically honest is awesome. It takes our power back. It gives us the truth about ourselves. And it might hurt a little bit, but as the saying goes, the truth will set you free, but first it will piss you off. So what truth about yourself do you not want to admit?

Is there weight you want to lose but you're not being honest with yourself?

Is there love you want to express and let in but you're afraid being hurt again?

Is there an addiction you want to give up, but you're too afraid to face yourself without the addiction?

Is there a change you are dying to make but you are just terrified of the unknown?

If your answer is YES - then today - let us practice radical honesty. How are you holding yourself in this pattern? What payoff do you get by staying the same? Who have you blamed so far for why you are stuck in this situation? Are you ready to take full responsibility for the circumstances of your life?

Write out what you want to change. Then write out honestly why you haven't. Write out the pay off. Write out whom you've been blaming and then tell the truth - why haven't you changed?

Now that you are facing this truth, how does it feel? A little uncomfortable? Good.
Truth is Love and Love is Truth.

So - now that you know the Truth about this part of your life, what are you going to do about it?

Me? I'm going to have three meals a day... starting... tomorrow. ;o)

Love,

Ivo

Let Go Of Needing To Be Right

One of the greatest obstacles to our growth is pride. The need to be right is one of the largest blocks to Love, to Growth and to intimacy.

This need is based in fear and is of the ego. One of my favorite philosophers, Krishnamurti, says the key to happiness is "not minding what happens."

This isn't to say that we shouldn't care or that we should be lazy. On the contrary, this is a call to care, to give it our all, but to surrender the outcome.

Our pride wants us to be right. Our pride wants us to be first. Our pride cannot admit when we're wrong. Our pride is terrified of opening up and loving. Our pride loves to be in control.

If we instead look at life, not from a place of lack that requires us to control our limited resources, but as a journey into dissolving our fears, we can let go.
And as Krishnamurti says, not mind what happens.

We can detach from the outcome. We cannot take insults personally. We cannot let how much money we do or do not have define us. We cannot let success define us.
We can let go of the need of the approval of other people. When we don't mind what happens, we can step into simply being ourselves and sharing.

We can detach from the fearful need to be right and instead step into an intention and the action of sharing. We begin to value growth over protection of our beliefs.
We are now willing to drop a belief when we come across a deeper truth.

We see the value in not needing to defend our position, but understand our fellow Seekers and share from a place of feeling, rather than report from a place of judgment.

We are being called to grow. We are asking for insight, so we must be willing to admit when we are wrong and flow with the lessons of The Uni-verse. Let us see ourselves as being sharpened so that we may cut through the B/S of life.

Soooooooooooo....

Is there any place in your life where you just really don't want to admit you are wrong? Are you willing to let it go for the sake of greater things that are waiting to enter your life?

What can you let go of today? What can you admit to? What do you want to no longer let control you?

Step into love and kindness by giving up the need to be right.

You might hate me now for saying this, but later you'll thank me. It feels so good to let it go.

Love,

Ivo

How much longer?

I want to be real with you. I have an honest and raw question...

How much longer do you want to suffer?

That is the question that kept coming up this week on my head. So many people have all the "knowledge" of this self-help business, but so few are walking in the knowledge.
There is a lot of knowledge and not that much experience.

So, I kept asking myself this question this week. Now I'm asking YOU -

How much longer do you want to suffer?

This question I'm asking you is on the side of your dreams. Now, I know if you're reading this blog you are probably not starving and have your basic needs met, so I'm not talking about survival suffering.

I'm talking about your heart and your soul. They are yearning for change. They are yearning for a new beginning. They are yearning to express themselves in your life in the form of creativity, a loving relationship, abundance, awesome friends and a thriving community. If you are lacking these things, part of you is suffering.

Not from a place of survival, not from a place of thriving... We are Seekers on The Path and we want the best from life. We want the Tiffany's and Chanel of inner peace. We have bodies that have enough energy to live our dreams. We want to take bold action and thrust ourselves outside of the our comfort zones so that we can live life fully expressed.

This cannot happen if we don't take thriving seriously. And not just our own thriving, but the thriving of everyone in our lives. As we get free we help those around us get free, too. And if our standards are so low that we only desire surviving and not thriving, we are suffering.

If we are not getting the MOST out of life, if we are not feeling FULLY alive and being FULLY expressed, then we are suffering. We are suffering from a life unlived. Not because out basic needs are met, no, but because we are not living from the inside out.

We don't need millions of dollars to thrive. But we do need to face our fears daily.
We don't need fancy cars or an expensive wardrobe to thrive, but we do need to wear our own authentic skin.

So I ask you today, dear Seeker, how much longer are you willing to suffer in an unexpressed life? If you choose to suffer longer, then don't blame other people for your unhappiness anymore. Your state of being is being decided upon in every moment by you.
Take ownership of not living a fully expressed life and take back the blame.

If you are ready to change now, then set higher standards, step into the uncomfortable and don't mind what other people say. You are here to thrive, to live fully expressed, not to wonder "what if?"

How much longer are you willing to suffer?

Love,
Ivo

Set out of Blame

Let us step out of blame today. When we decide to blame or in any way emotionally
stab someone, we are simply projecting our own pain onto him or her. In doing so,
we give him or her all the power for how we feel, which creates even more pain because
we know deep down another person can never make us feel happy or sad.

So today, in an effort to not only take our power back but also become more loving,
let us cease to blame and instead tell on ourselves. Let us express how we feel 
instead of blaming someone else for how we feel. Let us take ownership over our 
emotions, for we are realizing that it is merely our interpretations of the events
of our lives that create the emotions we feel.

When we dishonor and do not express our emotions, we let them well up within us.
We must give them voice; we must let them out to air. Not because we need to dump
them all over something, no, but because we value creating intimacy in our relationships
and the only way we can do that is by being willing to become vulnerable enough 
to tell on ourselves.

If you are in a situation where another person doesn't want to hear or honor how
you are feeling, then I would suggest asking yourself if you feel it is in your
best interest to be with someone who is not willing to accept and acknowledge the
deepest part of you.

So this is our calling for today: to take ownership of our emotions. To express 
our emotions fully and to choose to be with people who are willing to respect and
honor the deepest part of ourselves. This is a formula and plan for a large amount
of happiness. It is simple, but not easy. It takes courage and a willingness to 
accept parts of ourselves that we may not want to look at. But if we bring our Light
to the darkness of our lives, we will transform those dark parts into Light. This
is the courageous call we are asked to answer on our path to greater emotional freedom.

Love,
Ivo

How's with you?

Will Smith said it best:

"You can tell how far in life you'll go by the 5 people you spend the most amount of time with."

I remember the first time I heard this quote it totally rearranged my whole brain. I took a look around me and - OMG - did I see that some changes had to be made!

If you want to go far in life, it's VITAL that you surround yourself with people who love you, people who are looking out for your best interests and people who want you to win. Also - and PLEASE HEAR ME - when taking advice, not everyone's advice is equal - please, PLEASE take advice from people who HAVE what YOU WANT.

You wouldn't ask a plumber how to treat your cold and likewise you shouldn't ask people who haven't accomplished - how to accomplish. There may be PLENTY of well-meaning people in your life who are giving you horrible advice.

It could be their own limiting beliefs playing out, it could be that they want you to live a safe life and that taking risks is equivalent to possible failure, who knows, but believe me when I say that you don't want to take advice from "guessers".

Guessers are those people who haven't accomplished something that you are asking for advice about. Since they don't know, all they can really do is guess.

If you want to start a business, get advice from SUCCESSFUL business people in your field. If you want LOVE advice, get advice from someone who has an amazing relationship

Who you choose to surround yourself with and take advice from is a huge factor in how successful you will become.

So, who are you hanging out with these days?

Com quem andas?

Will Smith disse uma vez:

"You can tell how far in life you'll go by the 5 people you spend the most
amount of time with."

Lembro-me da primeira vez que ouvi isso e como totalmente reorganizou o meu cérebro. Dei uma olhada ao meu redor e - nossa - eu vi que algumas mudanças tinham que ser feitas!

Se você quiser conquistar na vida, é vital você se cercar de pessoas que a amam, pessoas que estão olhando para os seus melhores interesses e pessoas que  querem que você ganhe sempre. Além disso - e, por favor, ouça-me - quando se trata de conselhos, e como conselhos nunca são iguais - por favor, aceite de pessoas que tem o que você também quer.

Você não perguntaria a um encanador como tratar uma doença crônica, também você não deve perguntar a pessoas que não conseguiram fazer o que você quer. Pode haver bastante bem-intencionados na sua vida que lhe estão dando conselhos horríveis.

Pode ser porque suas próprias crenças falando mais alto, pode ser que eles querem que você viva uma vida segura e para elas correr riscos é equivalente a um eventual insucesso, quem sabe, mas acredite quando eu digo que você não quer conselhos de "guessers".

Guessers são aquelas pessoas que não conseguiram ou não conseguem o que você está querendo pedir conselho. Uma vez que eles não sabem, tudo o que realmente podem fazer é adivinhar.

Se você quer começar um negócio, obtenha conselhos de pessoas com negócios muito bem sucedidos nesse ramo. Se você quiser conselho de amor, procure orientação de alguém que tem um relacionamento incrivelmente motivador.

Quem você opta por se rodear e aceitar conselhos será um enorme fator de o quanto bem sucedido você se tornará.

Então, com quem você vai sair hoje?

Dor

Dizem que a dor é inevitável, mas o sofrimento é opcional. Temos toda a experiência da dor em nossas vidas. A questão é, como você vai interpretar a dor?

Você é vítima da sua dor? Você a combate. Você aceita que não vai mudar ou você vê a dor como um portal de descoberta e de crescimento?

Estas questões se aplicam a dor física, mas eu estou falando sobre a dor emocional. Os músculos mais fortes foram feitos por que se separam muitas vezes, só para serem reconstruídos cada vez mais fortes.

Quanto mais você estiver disposto a se colocar lá fora, e sujeitar-se à dor da vida, mais forte você pode se tornar.

Eles lhe rejeitaram. Como é que você vai interpretar isso? Que você é inútil e desprezível, ou que a pessoa certa irá aparecer no timing certo. Você vai continuar tentando e continuando a se amar? Ou, você desiste e deixa a dor da rejeição momentânea saia vitoriosa?

Você não consegue o que realmente queria. Você acredita que a vida é uma bosta e depois você morre? Ou então, você mantém a crença de que algo melhor ainda está esperando por você?

Toda vez que você experimentar dor você tem a opção de como deseja interpretar essa dor.

Considere seriamente esta questão: a partir de agora, como você vai interpretar a dor em sua vida?

Every act of creation is first an act of destruction

Party!

Learn to celebrate when things fall apart. All of life is in a constant cycle of death and rebirth. The seasons are always changing; lessons are always being learned.

The Universe is your dance partner and it wants to play with you. It wants you to experience all there is to feel, to be and to have. It gives you sensations of pain and pleasure so that you may experience the full range of the human experience.

But the most importantly part, Universe specializes in redemption. Sometimes the Universe makes you fall, not to keep you down, but to help you RISE in the RIGHT DIRECTION.

The new must always replace the old; this is a Universal law. Detach from your attachments. Join the party. Go with the flow of your Life and KNOW, in the core of who you are, that this party is choreographed for your HAPPINESS!

Let go of resistant thoughts, laugh of yourself, expect and welcome things to flee from your grasp. Join the party!

Festa!

Aprenda a comemorar quando as coisas desmoronarem. Tudo na vida é um ciclo constante de morte e renascimento. As estações estão sempre mudando, as lições estão sempre a serem aprendidas.

O Universo é seu parceiro de dança e ele quer se divertir com você. Ele quer que você experimente tudo que há para sentir, ser e ter. Dá-lhe sensações de dor e de prazer de modo que você possa experimentar toda a vasta experiência humana.

Mas a parte mais importante do Universo é a especialização em resgate. Às vezes, o Universo faz você cair, não para mantê-lo baixo, mas para ajudá-lo a levantar-se no sentido correto.

O novo deve sempre substituir o velho, uma das leis Universais. Junte-se à festa. Vá com o fluxo da sua vida e saiba, no seu núcleo quem você é, que esta festa é coreografada pela sua felicidade!

Deixe de lado pensamentos persistentes, ria de si mesmo, espere e aceite que coisas fujam do seu alcance. Junte-se à festa!

Desabafo

Eu sento e converso com Deus e Ele ri dos meus planos
Minha cabeça fala uma lingua que eu não entendo

Eu só quero sentir o amor verdadeiro, sentir o lar em que vivo
Por que eu tenho muita vida correndo em mim simplesmente indo para o lixo

Eu não quero morrer, mas também não estou muito a fim de viver
Antes que eu ame, já estou me preparando me ir embora
Estou morrendo de medo por isso eu continuo correndo, antes de chegar eu posso me ver vindo

Eu só quero sentir o amor verdadeiro

Other's

The awe, inspiration and talent you recognize in others are but a reflection of the same thing in you.
I highly suggest you do not seek the approval or recognition of those you admire but instead cultivate in yourself that which you see in them.
There is a dormant creative genius within you - let it out!

You are inspired by people because you see evidence in them of what you would like to create in yourself.
It's a misplacement of your power to give it to them.

Magic happens when you cultivate in yourself what inspires you about others. This is the kind of living dreams are made of.
It's a bold thing to express yourself. Take the power position and seek only to express yourself and not for outward validation.

Outros

A admiração, inspiração e talento que você reconhece nos outros, são apenas um reflexo de você mesmo.

Eu sugiro que você não deve procurar obter a aprovação ou o reconhecimento das pessoas que você admira mas em vez disso cultivar em si mesmo o que você vê neles. Não deixe que seu gênio criativo fique adormecido dentro de você - deixe sair!

Você é inspirado por pessoas porque você vê-los em evidência do que você gostaria para criar em si mesmo. Não desperdice esse seu poder em dar para eles use com você mesmo.

A magia acontece quando você cultiva em si mesmo o que lhe inspira nos outros.
Isso é o que os sonhos verdadeiros são feitos.
Seja ousado em se expressar. Assuma uma posição de poder e se expresse o que você é de verdade e não apenas para uma validação externa.

Carry with you the idea of love. And grace will reach into all your moments.